The Body-Shaming Behavior We All Need To Stop.

We love this insight from Shannon Kasier from mindbodygreen who is calling us to stop mentally picking ourselves apart, but to look in the mirror and celebrate our uniqueness. We are beautiful and enough, just as we are.

“There’s an insidious epidemic in our midst. It’s in boardrooms, coffee shops, parks, classrooms, fitness classes, spas, and living rooms on every continent. It’s the cause of depression, low self-esteem, and feelings of isolation at record levels—and women are especially susceptible.

I've seen it happen before, but it hit me with renewed force at a recent charity event. I was in a room full of established, insightful, smart, beautiful women, so the common theme was especially surprising. At every table, the conversations were not focused on accomplishments, celebrations, and ideas, but on self-deprecation, insecurity, frustration, and shame. Reaching for another cucumber sandwich, one woman said, “There are so many carbs here, I'll have to eat only protein for the rest of the weekend to balance this out.”

The problem isn’t the food. The problem is that we’ve been taught that how we look is more important than who we are.

Another woman was eyeballing the cookies and said, “I shouldn’t have another one. I will have to work out even longer just to burn it off.” In my ear, a friend was telling me how much weight she'd lost on her new diet.

I sat there wondering how we let it get like this. At what point in history did women start to shame themselves for eating, enjoying food, for just plain living? Food shame is at an all-time high, and it has the destructive effect of making us feel inadequate.

I've spent the last few years pursuing self-love and trying to accept myself for who I am. The more I seem to love myself, the less I feel I need to change. I don’t want to participate in conversations like this anymore.

Why are we shaming ourselves for being human? Why do we make ourselves feel bad for eating what we really want? Food is energy. It is nourishment. So why are we labeling our food with negative emotions? The problem isn’t the food. The problem is that we’ve been taught that how we look is more important than who we are or even what we do.

Many of us feel broken, so we try to fix an internal problem with an external solution. That's impossible. We can only fix the problem of disliking ourselves by working on the problem itself—not the symptoms. The solution is internal.

Stop judging yourself if you gain a little weight, you are human, and your worth is not dependent on the number you see on the scale. Please stop judging yourself for the way you look. Celebrate yourself, you are beautiful and enough just as you are”

Credit to mindbodygreen

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